Banish clutter from your home by finding out your attachment style

Virgin Radio

16 May 2022, 12:53

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Can't seem to get rid of your clutter?

Finding out which attachment style you have may help you downsize and make life easier when it comes to cleaning and decluttering.

Author Helen Sanderson says there are multiple styles of attachment when it comes to our comes, the same way there is in relationships.

The four styles are secure, fastidious/perfectionist, hoarding and cluttered/disorderly.

Which are you?

For secure types, Helen says this is when you have a healthy relationship with your home.

There are no signs of neglect or hoarding, nor is it obsessively tidy.

There's a good balance between the two.

A relaxed home can provide a secure and stable base to head out into the outside world.

People with fastidious/perfectionist styles need everything in the home to be perfect before they can relax.

A desire for order takes over, and a once healthy mantra of: ‘a place for everything and everything in its place’ can go to far.

Rather than being relaxing, this type has a strong impulse to create order.

It can be unhelpful and stressful if they are too critical, and they have little room for relaxation or spontaneity.

We've all seen hoarding programmes, and this type loves to keep and collect things to a point the home becomes unsafe.

Mental health can be an underlying factor here, or childhood habits about throwing things away.

Hoarding can be a way of coping with stress or trauma.

Cluttered and disorderly types aren't as bad as hoarders, but it can still cause problems.

These types are often creative and successful in their careers, but struggle to be orderly and successful in their homes.

It can have an impact on relationships.

Helen also encourages not to place too much importance on belongings, in an attempt to become more secure.

She also advises against rigid rules, and trying to become more mindful.

You can read more in 'The Secret Life Of Clutter: Getting Clear, Letting Go And Moving On'.